That looks sort of fun. The archery. The bow itself is a thing of beauty and a joy forever. I think there is no better way to accumulate a lot of funny stories than to go on a bunch of dates with people you don't know.
Interesting newsletter project. Good luck!. A comment about who / when / how to plan a date. I wonder if there is a balance to be struck, being wanting the other person to "make some effort" - as you wrote -- versus when such effort results in proposed or even pre-determined plans that are not to your liking or at least not what you would you prefer. I understand both parties need to be careful about going to too much effort, being too accommodating, etc and then later feel let down or have their time wasted because the other person wasn't really that interested after all, or not a good match. But if you do too little, not enough effort, the other person interprets that as insufficient interest. The dating apps may make this worse, by being so inefficient and time-consuming to start with (as well as the behavior of some of the users on the apps), that there is less charitable allowance left over to give toward another person, or that person's (also scarce) time.
Related: in Section III: How to avoid bad dates, point 2: "Propose locations for dates you want to go to, and activities that you trust will make you feel good." Maybe Archery-date-man was following this advice, and the activity was something that HE wanted to do, and he thought he would feel good about doing. ?? I don't know. The "you" in point 2 is yourself, but probably a good location for a date is when the activity is something both people want to do and both people will feel good after, even if the is-this-a-match? part of the date is not so good. But finding / choosing a location that fits that criteria is easier for your own criteria; hard to know if it fits for a person you hardly know. And a back and forth of many messages to find a suitable date / time / location is itself a time-consuming burden.
❤️ to #3. Using this as the prime criterion for a first date would improve things a lot
That looks sort of fun. The archery. The bow itself is a thing of beauty and a joy forever. I think there is no better way to accumulate a lot of funny stories than to go on a bunch of dates with people you don't know.
Interesting newsletter project. Good luck!. A comment about who / when / how to plan a date. I wonder if there is a balance to be struck, being wanting the other person to "make some effort" - as you wrote -- versus when such effort results in proposed or even pre-determined plans that are not to your liking or at least not what you would you prefer. I understand both parties need to be careful about going to too much effort, being too accommodating, etc and then later feel let down or have their time wasted because the other person wasn't really that interested after all, or not a good match. But if you do too little, not enough effort, the other person interprets that as insufficient interest. The dating apps may make this worse, by being so inefficient and time-consuming to start with (as well as the behavior of some of the users on the apps), that there is less charitable allowance left over to give toward another person, or that person's (also scarce) time.
Related: in Section III: How to avoid bad dates, point 2: "Propose locations for dates you want to go to, and activities that you trust will make you feel good." Maybe Archery-date-man was following this advice, and the activity was something that HE wanted to do, and he thought he would feel good about doing. ?? I don't know. The "you" in point 2 is yourself, but probably a good location for a date is when the activity is something both people want to do and both people will feel good after, even if the is-this-a-match? part of the date is not so good. But finding / choosing a location that fits that criteria is easier for your own criteria; hard to know if it fits for a person you hardly know. And a back and forth of many messages to find a suitable date / time / location is itself a time-consuming burden.
Omg need to know if this is THE photo he took of you
Indeed it is